Alex taps me on the shoulder, “Hey man look at her, she’s cute!”
“Yeah she is. So?”
“So you should go talk to her man. Pick her up!”
I scrunch up my eye brows and look back at Alex, “If you think she’s cute, why should I be the one to go talk to her. Don’t you want to meet her for yourself?”
“No way man, I look like ass right now. I haven’t shaved and these are my work boots I’m wearing.”
And that’s how it always is. Alex is never shaved, and he’s always wearing his work boots. Or maybe he’s got a stain on his shirt. Or his jacket is a size too big for him and it makes him look goofy. What ever the excuse may be, Alex always asks me to approach the pretty girls.
I’ve become some kind of a circus freak. I’m the nifty little side show that plays while you’re refilling your drinks. “Let’s hang out with Jack and see what kind of adventures we get into by being near him.”
It puzzles me how they can be happy taking the back seat. It boggles my mind how these guys can be contempt with living in their excuses day in and day out. If I sucked with women – no scratch that –WHEN I sucked with women I was not content. I was searching for any way possible to get better. No mountain was too high, no amount of embarrassment too painful to handle. I knew what I wanted, and nothing was going to stop me from getting it.
This type of mind set is rare. Most men are either in a state of denial, or they’re masturbating their desires away on youporn.
Alex is a Tomorrow Man. In his mind its okay that he isn’t meeting women right now. Because he can rest assured that he’ll gather up the gonads to do it tomorrow. You know, when he’s dressed well fully shaved and not wearing his work boots – then he’ll start attracting girls – tomorrow.
As you guessed it, tomorrow never comes.
Instead he’ll see that pretty girl again and ask me to do it. I mean it seems logical, right? He wants me to show him how it’s done so he knows how to do it himself… maybe for Tomorrow (lol).
It’s hilarious when you break it down to analyze. I mean the insane denial these men are in. The denial that they’ll get good at meeting women someday — just not today!
You have one life, one chance, one shot. Like you’re in 8 mile starring Eminem. You have to make this happen, and you have to make it happen now. Tomorrow is too long a wait.
I believe a wise green puppet once said, “There is no try. There is only do or do not.”
Alex will never change. He’ll end up meeting a slightly overweight to average looking woman at some point in the future. You know the type that will chase after him and be the dominant one because he was too afraid to do it himself. And then he’ll settle just like many men do.
We’re all looking for the magic pill to learn it all in one gulp. The one that we’ll never find.
I’ve been learning how to become the best me for years. And I’m far from there yet! I am getting closer though, and I am always improving with each passing day. As should any man be who is serious about taking control of his life.
I’d rather face possible embarrassment by hitting on the cute girl who just served me my coffee than live in the wonder of “what if?” If I had a dollar for every time I embarrassed my self I’d be insanely rich. Moreover, if I had a five dollar bill for every time I completely surprised my self and won over a girl I never thought I could – I might be equally as rich.
You just gotta’ ask yourself, “is the juice worth the squeeze?”
- Jack Coxwell
Damn it man I am a tommorow man…. Good way of putting it in perspective. I guess I think the important thing to realize is that you have nothing to lose. I mean I sit here saying this and I am scared to do certain things. Why? I dont know thats what I guess this helps you do is realize that nothing you say to a woman is the end of the world…even if you was to walk up and just blatently say “wanna F*&^” I know thats a little extreme but worst that will happen is a smack in the face… if she sees you out she will just avoid you… thats the worst case scenario I cant imagine anything worse. So what do we have to lose guys?