*The Ultimate Dweeb*

When I think of my self in one of the most dweeby times of my life, it’s not what you’d expect.

  • It’s not when I used to play video games.
  • It’s not when I used to collect comic books.
  • It’s not when I used to play Warhammer (still do paint the suckers every once in a while actually)
  • It’s not when I used to play online RP games (Similar to D n D type stuff)
  • It’s not when I was a pimple faced dweeb in high school.
  • It’s not when I used to collect Pokemon cards.
  • It’s not when I used to collect and play Magic The Gathering
  • It’s not even when all the friends I had were dorks!

Oh no, it’s when I first started learning “pickup.” When I was so naive into thinking I was going to attract women by reading an e-book.

Now my friend, THAT is one of the most dweeby times of my life.

When you reach a point of being great with women, you realize that all the garbage you used to study and wrack your mind with was almost useless! Sure, some key points are great! Like teasing the girl, approaching on an angle, maintaining high social value, proving you have social value, and appearing non-needy in your non-reactiveness. But besides these measly 5 pointers, I don’t implement much of ANYTHING else I used to study and consider “The rules of dating.” I don’t even remember the last time I used a “Time Constraint.”

Something has to be said on seeing women and meeting them in this unrealistic mind set that reading books such as “The Game” put you in. And it’s already been stated in the first sentence to this paragraph, “unrealistic mind set.”

None of these skills you are learning (skills such as story telling, negging, push/pull) are going to change the type of person YOU are DEEP DOWN. They can only put a mask ontop the truth. The whole aim here is to hope that mask seeps it’s hooks beneath the skin and welds into your very being (fake it till you make it). Problem being, for many this NEVER happens. Why does this never happen? Because they have unrealistic goals, unrealistic belief patterns.

Essentially, their minds are twisted the wrong way! It reads as if it’s “Too good to be true,” because it very damn well IS too good to be true. A few tactics are never going to change who you really are. Sure, you might get some girls numbers. but good luck on those dates you’ll be having! Hell, good luck even getting them to pickup the phone.

If you come to this from a true place of pain and a true place of suffering (I’m talking the guys who have a big zero when it comes to their history with women and are above the age of 25) there isn’t a line or a tactic out there that’s going to catapult women anywhere NEAR your arms. You have a lot of YOU work to do before you can think about finding a potential mate.

I am annoyed and saddened at how much this whole “Community” tricks people. It tricks people into thinking with a few memorized lines and few easy tactics you’ll be getting women in no time.

Listen, I KNOW I am an attractive person inside and out. I KNOW my time is valuable. I KNOW I am an unbelievable catch that girls would (and do) fight over(not only do I know this, but I am also told all these things daily by the women I date).

Now I want you to ask me how I manage to pull girls on a consistent rate, and consistently have them fall for me (and no, it’s not my looks)

Because I don’t pretend to be an attractive person inside and out, I KNOW it with every part of my being. Just as I know my time is valuable and I know I’m an amazing catch any girl would be sorry to miss out on. When these beliefs are internalized (usually through throwing yourself into the fire and learning the hard way) women become magnetized towards you.

Now I want you to tell a guy who is absolutely miserable and hopeless with women, to read a few books and memorize a few lines, and to be at the same place that I’m at within a reasonable time frame.

It’s just not going to work, period. The reason being is it takes more than “Faking it till you make it” for the guys who are GENUINELY hopeless. It takes a lot of ground work and mental training. You essentially have to transform all that is you, and yank out only the attractive qualities while accepting and forgiving the rest.

A feat this big is not only NEVER taken on as a reasonable challenge, but it’s also failed at time and time again by hopeful humans wanting change without putting the devastatingly hard work in.

I had days where I was miserable, days where I want to die. Days where I wanted to be alone forever and wanted to just give up. Days where I’d day dream of a girl just popping up on the street and approaching me, and me just getting into a long term relationship with them so I never had to think of “pickup” again.

This was NO WHERE near an easy journey. If you are “hopeless” in your mind. You are hopeless in your being. It’s just that simple.

If I could look at my self 8 months ago when I was yearning for a date, and tell my self a few things I didn’t know back then. I would tell my self to throw out all the stupid books I was reading. I would tell my self I had unrealistic goals, and that memorizing a few lines and tactics would make me look like a freak trying to recite a play in person live for strangers who forgot to pay the cover charge.

I would tell my self trying to take on the persona of a man who’s a professional magician and 1 foot taller than me was disgustingly stupid, I would tell my self playing hand tricks like the guy “perdeep” was using in the show only works when it’s congruent with your personality.

I would tell my self all these INSANELY obvious facts that I know now, but was too busy in my laa-dee-daa phase 8 months ago thinking Mystery was a god.

I mean it. When I used to call my friends up and say “let’s go sarging” I was the biggest Nerd that I have ever been in my life. Hell, at least when I played Pokemon cards I KNEW I was playing pokemon cards, and I knew Charizard was worth the most in the series. Learning pickup you know nothing but lies and deception thrown at you by men who want to make a quick dollar out of your e-book/bootcamp purchase.

I have friends who have been on bootcamps with “high class companies,” and friends who have seen bootcamps in progress (not including myself). Basically what happens is they spend a long time explaining to you things you’ve already read about, and then they spend less than a quarter of the same time watching you get shut down by girls, at which point they tell you some more stuff you already read about.

Am I saying all High grade pickup companies are no good? Hell no! I’m saying they’re not worth the near 3 thousand dollars you’re going to spend for the 3 days of time they are giving you, when you can spend $60 of that and learn the exact same thing by any one of the companies e-books. IF you are going to buy training, you either buy one-on-one, or make sure it’s a company that has SMALL boot camps, so you can get your money’s worth. (Basically what bootcamps are, are a bunch of guys who just paid top dollar to Hang out with a man who calls himself a “pickup artist.”)

I haven’t even hit the worst part of it all yet. These men who call them selves “pickup artists” and teach these bootcamps more than half the time aren’t nearly as good as men who are born Naturals with women!

It’s a disgusting field, and a field filled with liars and deception. Just about anyone can read an e-book and claim to be masterful with women, but less than 1% of those men can actually put their money where their mouth is. And less than 25% of the men writing the e-books, are any better at pickup than a man who’s a born “Natural” with the ladies.

You think these numbers don’t make sense? Guess again. I don’t mean to burst any bubbles here, but getting good with women is up to one person, and one person only:

YOU !!!!!!!!!!

Once you make powerful framework and sort out every detrimental factor in your mind and your essence that’s stopping you from being the man you were born to be, THATS when women start coming into your life. At this point the games and tactics don’t mean crap.

8 months ago I’d go out, and no one would compliment my looks. Today I go out, and it happens regularly. I’m not any buffer, any taller, or any better looking physically period.

Do you know what has changed? My ENERGY. My energy is what they are feeling, and it’s making me look attractive and FEEL desirable. I rarely ever get rejected or shut down anymore, because any girl with half a brain sees there isn’t anything better coming her way for a LONG time.

Am I being cocky? No I’m not being cocky. I’m telling you that no matter what you read or what they tell you, the true key to becoming masterful with women has almost NOTHING to do with women at all! It’s a complete mind fuck.

Whether you want to believe it or not, the true key to becoming masterful with women has to do with YOU, and you being the whole damn package.

What good is a plate without food? What good is a house without a roof?

Become the full package, inside and out. And you will know what happiness is. You will know what it is to attract and keep women. Because the women won’t have A CHOICE but be attracted to you!

How do you become the full package? I’m going to tell you. And No, this isn’t where I put a link to an e-book or something similar. This is where I say I’m going to explain this over a period of time through my video’s, and through my posts. So you guys can all reach this level.

But I must warn you, it’s not an easy path. Don’t embark on it without first knowing what you’re up against. You’re up against hard winds and huge waves, so build a sturdy ship damn it or invest in a quality life jacket.

- Jack Coxwell