Nitro’s Bootcamp, Day #1

It’s all too easy to say, “I was born with crooked teeth, can’t do anything about it.” But it’s harder to save up the money and make that dentist appointment to get some braces. It’s easy to say I’m ugly because I’m bald. But it’s harder to accept it and love your self anyway.

The way I see things, you have one of two options. You either choose to accept the way things are, or you choose to change the way things are.

“But jack, how do I change something I have no control over, like being short? I can’t walk around in stilts!”

Well, you can! But you may look absolutely ridiculous in doing so. Some things you have no choice but to accept. You’d be surprised how through acceptance you may even start to enjoy the things you wished you could change. Being bald means you don’t have to worry about spending cash or time on hair cuts. Being short means you’ll never have to feel uncomfortable in the back seat of a sports car. And I promise neither of these things will stop the majority of women from liking you.

If you choose to accept your current status of not being able to attract the women you want then you can either say to yourself, “You know what Bob, it’s O.K. I don’t need beautiful women in my life to feel happiness. I can accept this and move onto other things. I really like gardening; I think I’ll put my efforts into that.” Or you can say, “Bob, it’s time you stopped wallowing in your own self pity and decided to take some real action and do something about it.”

What ever you choose to do, make sure you believe in your decision 100%. Don’t ever half ass a job. If you’re going to accept your life the way it is, then ACCEPT IT. Don’t’ think back or build a list of “if only’s.” “If only I was taller I’d be able to take action and learn how to attract girls. If only I had a smaller nose, less goofy ears. If only I wasn’t fat as the ice cream truck.”

That is not accepting – that is rationalizing.

When did I ever say rationalizing was one of your options? I told you already, you only have TWO options. Accept it. Or change it. There is NO in between.

If you choose to change, you must agree to take full responsibility for what ever happens. You may decide to go out and approach 20 women, telling them all you thought them to be beautiful and ask them all for their contact info.

If all 20 of those women reject you and tell you to F off, then you’re going to smile and agree that it’s your fault they didn’t like you. You’re going to look at the way you approached them, examine the way you were dressed, listen to the way you spoke. And maybe you’ll come to the conclusion you sound like a creepy guy.

If this is the case you’ll then take the proper steps to no longer look and sound like a creep. Then on the next day, you’ll go out and try again, making the proper adjustments until you get maybe ONE girl to agree to see you again. Then on your third day maybe 2 girls will agree to see you again. And on your fourth day, 2 and-a-half girls will.

EASY!
 
Your Personality
Not everyone has a natural charismatic personality. That’s life. Maybe you have one, maybe you don’t. If you don’t have one, not all is at a loss. You can learn how to BUILD an attractive persona.

Ask yourself this question – Do I currently have many beautiful women in my life who want to date me? If the answer is “No” then this part of your life needs work. Maybe you’re a boring guy; maybe people get bored just sitting close to you. Maybe no one ever taught you proper etiquette and you’re a rude nasty individual. Maybe you have a vendetta against women, and you look at them all as evil because somewhere in your past a girl tore your heart out.

I don’t know what your personal reasons are for having an unattractive personality, and frankly I don’t care. What I do care about is educating you on what an attractive personality IS.

Your personality is a collection of traits you’ve put together and developed over the years that make up your behavioral patterns. Things like whether you lean forward too much when you walk, whether you talk out of your nasal cavity of your diaphragm, whether you exercise and eat properly or eat candy breakfast lunch and dinner. Even things like how you view women and feel about them.

If you can manage to change all of these things for the better, women will have no choice but to become attracted to you. No, you won’t attract every woman you come into contact with. That’s stupid and unrealistic. But you will attract more girls than you are attracting now. And anything better than that is a major bonus and worth working towards.

When you internalize and follow the 6 core principles that I will explain in a moment, It won’t even matter how tall or genetically ugly you are. She could be 6’3” and you could be 5’5” and she’ll still fall a brutal victim to your undeniable charm (true story that happened to me!)

It won’t even matter how old you are. You might be 45 and she might be 22. She’ll still find you appealing and incredibly endearing. It won’t even matter how bald, how many pimples, or how fat you are. True, it is better to have things like your weight and your skin under control. More people WILL like you if you are in good shape, period. That’s just a fact. But it will NOT be a deal breaker.

Once these core principles are internalized it will no longer matter what geeky habits you may have. Perhaps your passionate about playing World of Warcraft, or collect star wars action figures and have a room decorated with Darth Vader’s face – You will STILL be able to attract an insane amount of women.

In my bed room I have a shelf that is completely littered with Warhammer 40k miniatures. For those of you who don’t know, Warhammer 40K is a futuristic tabletop game that uses hundreds of small 3 quarter inch plastic figurines to represent squads of futuristic warriors. It’s played using dice and measuring tape, kind of like a board game.

Anyway, I’ve had girls come over to my house, come right into my room. Look over my several shelves of Warhammer toys, pick them up and examine them. Then 10 minutes later jump into bed with me. They don’t even say a WORD that I have what looks like children’s toys in my room. It simply does not matter to them once they are already attracted and know they want me. This is because I have internalized the 6 core principles of attraction.
 
Core Principle #5: Looks
I’m not in the business of bull shitting. An attractive man who has learnt and mastered all the skills presented will outclass and out game an unattractive man 90% of the time. Period. However! You guys are in luck. Most of the Brad Pitt manufactured men are dumb as nails! I’m talking “I like to drink alcohol and hang out with the bro’s while we get tribal tattoos painted around our ass cracks because chicks dig tattoos;” that kind of Stupid.

In other words, if you learn the material and master your own game then these good looking bro sacks won’t stand a chance against you! This is not to say you are allowed to be ugly though.

I’ve been out on double dates with girls and the girl I’m on the date with (hopefully) will find me incredibly attractive. But her friend will be saying to her in the washroom, “What the heck are you doing with that guy! He looks like the hobbit from Lord of The Rings! You’re nuts to find him good looking.” Or I’ll be out with a group of women, and one woman will comment on a guy who she thinks is gorgeous, and all 3 of her friends will disagree. Actually last weekend I was out with two women and one of them found this hick who only had ONE front tooth gorgeous. Who would have figured a toothless grin could be sexy?

In order to be attractive you must dress attractive. People judge who we are based off first impressions. If a girl’s first impression of you is that you like to wear hideous wolf howling at the moon T-shirts she’ll think you live in your parent’s basement still collect Pokemon Cards and have a 4 inch wiener.

Dressing attractive isn’t very difficult, the number one principle is everything you own must be FORM FITTING. Not to be confused with cutting off the circulation tight. But your clothes should outline your form nicely. Now if you are overweight and form fitting clothing make your belly appear to pump out even further over your cock than it already does, you need to consider healthy eating and a gym. I don’t care if you’re self conscious of your weight so you so you only wear baggy clothes. Either wear form fitting cloths or go naked, either are better options than poorly fitted cloths.

You must look like you take care of yourself! There’s a reason Bums don’t get laid. They smell they don’t shave and they wear the same clothes for months or years without changing.

Groom yourself daily! This includes always smelling good and always having a clean shave. If your preference is facial hair, keep it well trimmed. Even if you rock the “rugged look,” make sure it doesn’t transform into the leonidus pube dash look.

If you are balding DON’T wear baseball caps to hide the bald spots. I know it’s temping and I know it can be embarrassing to lose your hair, especially when it happens at a young age. But keeping your hair long with obvious thinning and or balding areas looks downright stupid! Women will think you’re in denial about your thinning hair and perceive you to be a self conscious person. Self conscious people are generally insecure people, and insecure people don’t meet a lot of women.