Episode 11 – Rejection, NOT Ejection!
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CONCLUSION
I noticed something very interesting while thinking about game the other day, more importantly, when thinking about MY game. I came to a huge realization that some of you may never reach (unless you want it bad enough). That is, when I finally did become really good at picking up women, it did not happen over night. No, it happened within an instant! It was not until I said to my self, “Jack, you are amazing at picking up women.” After I said those words – more importantly – after I said and believed those words, I became a pickup artist. Not only in Title, but in reality.
Afterwards, the girls I was approaching actually did begin to open more easily, my conversations began to flow better, and I began to close almost every girl I came into contact with (who was of beauty to me).
The logic behind this? It’s simple really, once you accept something as truth it becomes truth. Our bodies are incredible systems that tactfully adapt to all kinds of unreal situations that would otherwise crush us!
Many of us trot around in this existence tick-tocking through life in a dazed time warp. Once you grab hold of your reality and start living moment to moment – instead of week to week, month to month, year to year – Life begins to make sense again. Life begins to get beautiful again. All of a sudden you begin to acquire things you used to yearn and struggle for. Instead these “things” begin to almost come right for you! Sometimes it can be a tad overwhelming and you may find yourself running from said “things!”
Listen guys, this game isn’t hard. There are practically encyclopedia’s of information out there that will teach you everything you need to know (theory wise) to pickup a girl! This stuff has been tested time and time again. This stuff WORKS! Period.
The catch is, you have to apply your new insights to real world situations. I read material for over 6 months with barely ever going out in the beginning! When I finally did go out I found my self pissing my pants full of fear and self doubt. It took time, effort, and determination to make it over the first hump. You too can have the same results, you simply need to remember to LEARN from your failures, embrace your failures! Look forward to your failures! dissect and study them with a microscope! But never, and I mean never, Fear your failures.
If I never had my heart ripped out, stuffed back in again upside down, then ripped out and put through a grader – I’d never have embarked on this journey. My failure to have a successful relationship launched my quest forward towards new things I never would have dreamed possible!
Close the books, get out that door, and open up a conversation with a stranger. Don’t worry about failing, take a note pad and write down the things you think you may have done poorly and need to improve after each said “failure,” and then tell yourself how amazing of a pickup artist you are, and move on to the next girl. With over 3 billion women on the planet, I’m sure you wont’ have a tough time finding at least one to love ya’!
- Jack Coxwell
33 Responses to “Episode 11 – Rejection, NOT Ejection!”
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good video man. i learned some
that makes perfect sense. I think that could be a big part missing from my game, sometimes I get so nervous that I eject to quick. That really puts it in perspective man.
Cool, man
Smooth game and all but you could change one thing. Freakin *beeps* are killin me! ;P
Cheers, and keep up the good work
just as your other videos…B R I L L I A N T
I was wondering what camecorder you use? I’m thinking of buying one, so I can film myself and review it later on, just all the camcorders are so bloody expensive (£150 or more).
Keep up the good work, and keep those vids coming
If I was collecting #’s I’d get a phone-book. Without documenting any escalation past the pickup it all amounts to nothing.
Great stuff man! Absolutely right about sticking around after a minor rejection like “I don’t give out my phone number.” or any other rejection. the phrase “Don’t give up” jumps out at me.
One piece of advice to get numbers – Don’t ask for them directly. Once you get a few IOI’s talk about something that’s really cool that you’re going to do and when she’s excited about the idea, drop something like “Cool, ok, we have plans.” then proceed with something else. Later, when you’re ready o move on, and you want her number, it’s less intrusive (and easier for her to agree to give you her number) if you say “Ok, I’ve gotta roll now, but give me your number so we can {insert cool thing here} and I’ll shoot you a text later.”
I’ve rarely seen that fail if the girl shows any interest.
Hmm… Yeah, interested to see more about Day2s ,etc… even if you just do a little video talking about your “date” etc…
The issue with the first girl was that you didn’t build enough rapport/comfort. You realized this and then did it after the number rejection. Hope things worked out for ya
I love it all!
Man, you’ve really helped me a lot. I’m fairly new to this and still using the training wheels (canned openers and material etc) and I’ve been having serious trouble transitioning from the opener into a normal conversation which means I’ve been ejecting from the sets I’ve approached as soon as the opener is finished. So by now I’m probably known as the crazy guy going around town taking polls
Now I’ve been watching your videos and things are starting to make sense. So next time I go out I will probably be able to escalate the conversation beyond the opener, so thanks a lot for your videos man.
Great stuff Jack, safe to say I think you’ve made it. You have a strong frame to keep going after that ‘rejection’, and you were right too: I think it was just a bit of ASD/lack of comfort combination. If they’re not in a public gathering and there is no pre-text for meeting, some girls are just plain freaked out by talking to ‘strangers’, whoever you are.
I must say too that you do SO much better than the guys on the pickup artist, I mean, none of them could even get a damn conversation going. Also, they hardly had a chance as the girls would pretty much run away. I don’t know if the girls are more friendly/comfortable in Canada or something, perhaps the lower crime rate, I don’t know. The ones who walk on you previous vids have no problems stopping and talking. Even the ones you opened in the dark with that creep line – that was some kickass shit! Even I was shocked that they were so responsive. It doesn’t matter whether the girl is an 8 or a 2 – most will run away on the street because they’re uncomfortable and you have next to no value. The reactions seen on the pickup artist seem quite consistent with the ones I’ve seen in my life as well, so if kosmo is an mPUA then you must be too. Congratulations on your successful journey, it’s inspiring but…I must say I don’t think I have as strong a frame as you, nor do most other AFCs like me with girl problems. You know if you see a hot stripper dance naked in front of you, well you will probably get a boner and there is nothing you can do about it, it’s a physiological reaction. Same as if a girl rejects me like that, I can’t help it but the adrenaline is released and my heart sinks to the pit of my stomach, then I get that sick feeling of worthlessness in my chest, and so we are programmed to flee when rejection takes place, and there’s nothing I can really do about it, I just have to get out of there (eject) to make that feeling at least subside a bit. Basically what I’m saying is, rejection not ejection, easier said than done!!
Given that you’re an mPUA now, your task is to teach Scott how to do it all, mystery method style, with change in avatar first on the agenda. I see him in a casual black mafia style suit, perhaps with shades, some cufflinks. And a red handkerchief in the pocket for peacocking. How’s he doing anyway? It would be so awesome to see similar progress from Scott, as you have made.
Keep em coming
Jayden
Nice vids Jack, please do more!!
Also why did they leave so fast! Almost instant haha
I was wondering what kind of program you use to edit your videos also where you get all teh sound effect and stuff… thanks
great stuff mate.. I was thinking if you could film scene were you are meeting the girl for the second time, possibly at your place in your room, and possibly how you make a transition from a normal conversation into sexual, and thereby going for the kiss. I know if might be quite difficult to record, but would be quite helpful.
So far the video’s have been mostly about getting the phone no. but the next step is missing .. of course you don’t need to film the sex part, if that happens:)
Hah….the hell with NOT USING THE METHOD. You used every part of the method man. “Just because a girl rejects your advance is no reason to stop talking to her” … Mystery says this man. “When do you leave a set?” “When she says ‘please leave’ or ‘get the fuck out’ “.
You didn’t get rejected man. And you’re still using the method, so stop with the bullshit. No pickup artist (or anyone who knows a good deal about pickup) will COPY soundbites and try to be a clone of the famous PUAs, they will take the information presented, and use it in a way that it works for the personally.
Good job though man, you’re really progressing, seems as if you have everything internalized and are able to think quickly on your feet and create the best outcome.
good shit jack I’ve been watching you. But I have to ask, did you give up? where are the new videos at it’s been forever!
Hey Guys! I really appreciate what you guys are doing and i really like your web site. The videos and blogs are great and show a learning lesson for people that are looking to succeed in the game of picking up women. Keep up the good work and as always I wish you guys best of luck.
I also wanted to suggest a book that i have found out to be very useful, its called How to Succeed With Women by Ron Louis and David Copeland. Having First hand experience at Picking up women I can really relate to this book in a lot of topics here and its a also a great read for those barely beggining or getting back in the game.
Response to Christian:
Christian, he’s not copying the method, he’s saying that out of experience. I also tended to say things like ‘famous PUA’s’ when I got more experience, but only afterwards I saw that some PUA’s say that too.
Thats why I believe that experience is the best mentor, it teaches you everything you need to know on a deeper level that any book will teach you. But books are good to start out with.
To Jack:
Your progress looks nice mate, I’m seeing what I’m doing wrong, I’ve got to close quicker. By the way if you want to test some fun openers, just for giggles try these (did them when I was having fun):
- When you’re walking on a street and she walks in the opposite direction start walking backwards, make eye contact with her, wave to her, smile and say “hi” (did it a few times, 1 time it was a bit akward but I pointed that akwardness out, wasn’t a big deal after that)
- 1 of my most strange dared lines I did 1 time with a classy woman:”Hey you’re cute!”
”
Her:”Thank you”
Me:”But you’re not really a slut.” *bit dissapointed*
Her:”What?!”
Lol her expression told me she was flattered and a bit insulted in some sort of way
Me:”Yea you’re too classy
- When I was walking in Amsterdam I used openers like:”Hey do you know where Amsterdam is?”
Or
“Hey can you help me out, I’m looking for the Eifel tower but I got really confused where to go.”
- Girls on bikes:”Wow nice ferarri! How fast does it go?” 1 problem here was I didn’t stopped them.
- Me *first time using direct lines, 1,5 yrs ago*
Me:”Hey uhm… yea… I think you’re cute”
Her:*smiling with a bright face* “thank you”
Me:”My god now you are even cuter with that smile, awhhh!”
Her:*smiling even more*
Me:”And now even more cute, my god how cute can you get? Whats your name”
- “Guys do you know where the magazine repair store is?” *or any other store which doesn’t exists* or ask the icecream salon no one seems to know!
Melvin (Amsterdam)
If some of you guys come to visit Amsterdam and want to contact me for a bit of information of where to go etc., email me at: 00melo00@gmail.com
show us day 2 s bro,,, collecting phone numbers aint that impressive, and specially in this video, im scheptic that youll get a day two with the target, when she wouldnt even give you her number, and u created no commonality or any reason for her to go out of her way to meet you again. If she is a hot girl (the video didnt show enough) shes probably got a lot of options on what to do with her time, and that one dude who talked about God knows what and tried to get her number but got her friends instead, i dont know…
kelvin said,
on June 15th, 2008 at 7:22 pm
great stuff mate.. I was thinking if you could film scene were you are meeting the girl for the second time, possibly at your place in your room, and possibly how you make a transition from a normal conversation into sexual, and thereby going for the kiss. I know if might be quite difficult to record, but would be quite helpful.
So far the video’s have been mostly about getting the phone no. but the next step is missing .. of course you don’t need to film the sex part, if that happens:)
……yeah of course the next part is missing cuz if he gets these bitches back to his pad its fluff talk at his house too or fluff on the date …..he aint kiss closing or anything like that trust me if I were in his shoes and had to opportunity to show everyone me kissin hot bitches I woulda filmed it and had a sex tape out He cant tape whats not happen why doesnt he just learn the game properly instead of spew bad useless advice
nice stuff melvin.
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guys give him a break, hes posting these videos for YOU
i agree that a video of him opening –> k-closing a girl on the street would be nice and show us whats really possible would be fucking terrific but this stuffs good anyway.
the thing is it doesnt look like jacks about being the most/greatest pickup artist ever or trying to get recognition from you guys . and plus theres the girl. youre picking her up but still respect her. id feel a litlle uncomfortable filming a makeout session without her knowledge;thats too hit it & quit it for me..but it would still be fucking awesome
but seriously if you guys want a video with it so badly just go out and do it yourselves. now that im reading this i know thats gonna be my goal for the next time i go sarging (tomorrow
nice job & keep up the good vids ! its been a while since the last one…
the shepard , any idiot can start a website and say shit and a bigger idiot (you) would believe it (j/k)
he aint posting shit for me I givin advice for him hes the one who needs instruction hes no teacher and its because you take his stuff as gospel Im posting on here jack aint gettin laid consistently with skill and his advice aint getting no laid consistently with skill ..and another damn thing if your goal and his goal is to get dates and numbers than you guys should stop callin yourselves PUA’s your afcs
alright alright I respect that.
But all im saying is don’t knock a guy thats doing this. Like honestly tell me if youdidnt learn anything from here or tell me it didnt help AT ALL. anyone who takes any of this pua shit as gospel is an idiot, but that doesnt mean you shouldnt listen to it. bottom line is this is some good shit and idc if he doesnt show him kiss closing someone orw/e you call it. that has not a freaking thing to do w/ YOU and YOUR game and if you had any youd be out there yourself kissing girls you met on the street/getting laid or w/e it is you think makes a PUA. if you are congrats why the fuck are you mad, and if youre not then you know what YOU need to work on, not jack
Are you still considering yourself as someone who uses game, or are you just experiencing the natural evolution of a normal conversation for the first time. That’s how conversations work, one person says something and the other person adds to that. The cycle repeats itself.
Yo Jack! I really admire your work and your videos. They are great. I have been following each episode now after seeing your youtube videos. Your technique is down to earth and really natural. I am very pleased to know that this site exists for guys like me. Your videos and posts are very inspiring. I finally read THE GAME and I’m slowly getting the courage to approach. Each time Im in the field I get the urge to sarge but fear always takes over. Hopefully I can get some insight from your videos and finally learn how to approach and hold the conversation. Thanks!
yoo…youve really changed from your first video…i can see that you have built a lot of confidence now..and you know what you’re talking about. I also love that you are a ff 7 fan lol with all that music…but btw..i kind of need some advice on how you approach girls..thats what i have the biggest problem with…..not sure where youre from but i would love to get some tips so please email me back or something…thanks man..love your work.
ok for some reason I can only view the YouTube versions cuz the other format you have going on your site stops abrubtly during play but at the youtube page I saw a comments by MentSrix and I wanted to know what you thought of his “constructive criticism”
Jack if this was a one set do you think you could still do the same thing?, I mean having that other girl in the set really did save you.
good approach i’d say, you definately have balls.
you should try to give to the conversation instead of just asking questions and being a social “leech”
Lovedrop’s the man about this stuff dude, look him up
dude seriously you’re a breath of fresh air. it’s really nice being able to see the game being played in field. you can only learn so much from a book.
jack your evaluation of your day in the field is facisnating…i throughly agree with not being quick to leave after being rejected. i was wondering why the chicks left just after you left. did you notice that. perhaps that may give some insight.
I love that Kelvin makes reference to being in your shoes and having an opportunity like that. Well buy a damn video camera and a mic Kelvin, its not like this dude has super powers. He just has the balls to introduce himself to people he doesnt know, and a third ball to put it on tape. So thanks for having three large balls dude, It’s appreciated.