Nitro’s Bootcamp, Day #1

jackcoxwell — Tue, 04 May 2010 22:42:02 +0000

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UPDATE Since posting this video it has been nearly2 years ago to this date (it’s currently May 5th, 2010, this video was first posted June 7th 2008) I have grown as a person, as a PUA, and as a teacher. It’s taken me 2 years since this videos release to FINALLY figure out exactly what it takes to not only learn this art, but to learn it the RIGHT way — to learn it the FASTEST way.

I’ve been actively writing a book to help all of you figure out how to meet attractive women just like I’ve figured out, without needing to rely on any kind of script gimmick or pheromone cologne (what a joke!). Below are a few excerpts from the book which is currently in the works. This book is intended to be an honest no B.S. guide to mastering your fear and taking back your life. It’ll show you just how easy meeting women can actually be:

Everything that happens to you is YOUR fault
Yeah, even having a big nose or crooked teeth, it’s your fault. Stop blaming circumstances and start blaming yourself. The sooner you move the blame from the circumstance to you, the sooner you can start invoking change and do something about it.

It’s all too easy to say, “I was born with crooked teeth, can’t do anything about it.” But it’s harder to save up the money and make that dentist appointment to get some braces. It’s easy to say I’m ugly because I’m bald. But it’s harder to accept it and love your self anyway.

The way I see things, you have one of two options. You either choose to accept the way things are, or you choose to change the way things are.

“But jack, how do I change something I have no control over, like being short? I can’t walk around in stilts!”

Well, you can! But you may look absolutely ridiculous in doing so. Some things you have no choice but to accept. You’d be surprised how through acceptance you may even start to enjoy the things you wished you could change. Being bald means you don’t have to worry about spending cash or time on hair cuts. Being short means you’ll never have to feel uncomfortable in the back seat of a sports car. And I promise neither of these things will stop the majority of women from liking you.

If you choose to accept your current status of not being able to attract the women you want then you can either say to yourself, “You know what Bob, it’s O.K. I don’t need beautiful women in my life to feel happiness. I can accept this and move onto other things. I really like gardening; I think I’ll put my efforts into that.” Or you can say, “Bob, it’s time you stopped wallowing in your own self pity and decided to take some real action and do something about it.”

What ever you choose to do, make sure you believe in your decision 100%. Don’t ever half ass a job. If you’re going to accept your life the way it is, then ACCEPT IT. Don’t’ think back or build a list of “if only’s.” “If only I was taller I’d be able to take action and learn how to attract girls. If only I had a smaller nose, less goofy ears. If only I wasn’t fat as the ice cream truck.”

That is not accepting – that is rationalizing.

When did I ever say rationalizing was one of your options? I told you already, you only have TWO options. Accept it. Or change it. There is NO in between.

If you choose to change, you must agree to take full responsibility for what ever happens. You may decide to go out and approach 20 women, telling them all you thought them to be beautiful and ask them all for their contact info.

If all 20 of those women reject you and tell you to F off, then you’re going to smile and agree that it’s your fault they didn’t like you. You’re going to look at the way you approached them, examine the way you were dressed, listen to the way you spoke. And maybe you’ll come to the conclusion you sound like a creepy guy.

If this is the case you’ll then take the proper steps to no longer look and sound like a creep. Then on the next day, you’ll go out and try again, making the proper adjustments until you get maybe ONE girl to agree to see you again. Then on your third day maybe 2 girls will agree to see you again. And on your fourth day, 2 and-a-half girls will.

EASY!

Your Personality
Not everyone has a natural charismatic personality. That’s life. Maybe you have one, maybe you don’t. If you don’t have one, not all is at a loss. You can learn how to BUILD an attractive persona.

Ask yourself this question – Do I currently have many beautiful women in my life who want to date me? If the answer is “No” then this part of your life needs work. Maybe you’re a boring guy; maybe people get bored just sitting close to you. Maybe no one ever taught you proper etiquette and you’re a rude nasty individual. Maybe you have a vendetta against women, and you look at them all as evil because somewhere in your past a girl tore your heart out.

I don’t know what your personal reasons are for having an unattractive personality, and frankly I don’t care. What I do care about is educating you on what an attractive personality IS.

Your personality is a collection of traits you’ve put together and developed over the years that make up your behavioral patterns. Things like whether you lean forward too much when you walk, whether you talk out of your nasal cavity of your diaphragm, whether you exercise and eat properly or eat candy breakfast lunch and dinner. Even things like how you view women and feel about them.

If you can manage to change all of these things for the better, women will have no choice but to become attracted to you. No, you won’t attract every woman you come into contact with. That’s stupid and unrealistic. But you will attract more girls than you are attracting now. And anything better than that is a major bonus and worth working towards.

When you internalize and follow the 6 core principles that I will explain in a moment, It won’t even matter how tall or genetically ugly you are. She could be 6’3” and you could be 5’5” and she’ll still fall a brutal victim to your undeniable charm (true story that happened to me!)

It won’t even matter how old you are. You might be 45 and she might be 22. She’ll still find you appealing and incredibly endearing. It won’t even matter how bald, how many pimples, or how fat you are. True, it is better to have things like your weight and your skin under control. More people WILL like you if you are in good shape, period. That’s just a fact. But it will NOT be a deal breaker.

Once these core principles are internalized it will no longer matter what geeky habits you may have. Perhaps your passionate about playing World of Warcraft, or collect star wars action figures and have a room decorated with Darth Vader’s face – You will STILL be able to attract an insane amount of women.

In my bed room I have a shelf that is completely littered with Warhammer 40k miniatures. For those of you who don’t know, Warhammer 40K is a futuristic tabletop game that uses hundreds of small 3 quarter inch plastic figurines to represent squads of futuristic warriors. It’s played using dice and measuring tape, kind of like a board game.

Anyway, I’ve had girls come over to my house, come right into my room. Look over my several shelves of Warhammer toys, pick them up and examine them. Then 10 minutes later jump into bed with me. They don’t even say a WORD that I have what looks like children’s toys in my room. It simply does not matter to them once they are already attracted and know they want me. This is because I have internalized the 6 core principles of attraction.

Core Principle #5: Looks
I’m not in the business of bull shitting. An attractive man who has learnt and mastered all the skills presented will outclass and out game an unattractive man 90% of the time. Period. However! You guys are in luck. Most of the Brad Pitt manufactured men are dumb as nails! I’m talking “I like to drink alcohol and hang out with the bro’s while we get tribal tattoos painted around our ass cracks because chicks dig tattoos;” that kind of Stupid.

In other words, if you learn the material and master your own game then these good looking bro sacks won’t stand a chance against you! This is not to say you are allowed to be ugly though.

I’ve been out on double dates with girls and the girl I’m on the date with (hopefully) will find me incredibly attractive. But her friend will be saying to her in the washroom, “What the heck are you doing with that guy! He looks like the hobbit from Lord of The Rings! You’re nuts to find him good looking.” Or I’ll be out with a group of women, and one woman will comment on a guy who she thinks is gorgeous, and all 3 of her friends will disagree. Actually last weekend I was out with two women and one of them found this hick who only had ONE front tooth gorgeous. Who would have figured a toothless grin could be sexy?

In order to be attractive you must dress attractive. People judge who we are based off first impressions. If a girl’s first impression of you is that you like to wear hideous wolf howling at the moon T-shirts she’ll think you live in your parent’s basement still collect Pokemon Cards and have a 4 inch wiener.

Dressing attractive isn’t very difficult, the number one principle is everything you own must be FORM FITTING. Not to be confused with cutting off the circulation tight. But your clothes should outline your form nicely. Now if you are overweight and form fitting clothing make your belly appear to pump out even further over your cock than it already does, you need to consider healthy eating and a gym. I don’t care if you’re self conscious of your weight so you so you only wear baggy clothes. Either wear form fitting cloths or go naked, either are better options than poorly fitted cloths.

You must look like you take care of yourself! There’s a reason Bums don’t get laid. They smell they don’t shave and they wear the same clothes for months or years without changing.

Groom yourself daily! This includes always smelling good and always having a clean shave. If your preference is facial hair, keep it well trimmed. Even if you rock the “rugged look,” make sure it doesn’t transform into the leonidus pube dash look.

If you are balding DON’T wear baseball caps to hide the bald spots. I know it’s temping and I know it can be embarrassing to lose your hair, especially when it happens at a young age. But keeping your hair long with obvious thinning and or balding areas looks downright stupid! Women will think you’re in denial about your thinning hair and perceive you to be a self conscious person. Self conscious people are generally insecure people, and insecure people don’t meet a lot of women.

If you are balding SHAVE your head. Hell, even if you’re not balding you could shave your head! You’re lucky, in today’s day and age this not only accepted but considered fashionable. I have my head shaved and I’ve met several women who have such a preference for shaved heads they will ONLY date men who rock the style. Shaving your head is a sign of confidence. Its saying I don’t need hair to feel good about my self, I know I’m a good catch either way. When has confidence ever been considered unattractive? Just let go. Sure, if your temples are just receding a little, or if your crown has only thinned out a small amount its O.K. to keep your hair. But anything more severe means get rid of it. And I don’t want to hear any of those, “I have a weird shaped head” excuses either. The only person who notices details that small is you. Get over yourself and quit being a baby.

To learn more, and what the other 5 attractive qualities exactly are join the mailing list Here. The book is currently in some of its final stages of development, once it is finished I will e-mail everyone on that list personally to let them know where they can pick up their copy, or download an e-copy. Also, since I’m currently not finished writing the book, POST YOUR IDEAS BELOW regarding what questions you would like answered or verified within it and I’ll do my best to do that for you.

- Jack Coxwell

Episode #16 – “Go For The Kiss!”

jackcoxwell — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 08:56:44 +0000

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CONCLUSION:

Jon doesn’t get any ladies. The ladies don’t particularly find Jon to be the most charming, or the most handsome guy. In fact most of the ladies I know think he’s a big creep!

So I’m left asking my self – how did this goofy creep just completely flatter and make these two girls days on his first two approaches ever? Well, if you see things the way I do then the answer is obvious. He was disarming, non-threatening, and you could tell by his energy he didn’t take him self too seriously. When approaching a girl during the day your energy is contagious. If you are all up in your head, vibrating from the fear of the approach these feelings mutate into your facial features and body language – these are features which can repel women away from you better than bug spray does a mosquito!

The trick to being calm and relaxed is simple – have no outcome dependency. This is a feat easier said than done! Most of us have realized this already. Unfortunately (or fortunately) the only way to lesson your outcome dependency and not care what happens is to simply get out there and face your fears. If talking to women scares you – then keep doing it till it’s not as scary! You’ll notice your energy will begin to vibrate at a more relaxed rate, and through this the women you are approaching will be more receptive and open to your approaches. You may even find you begin to get good at meeting women – you may even find it begins to get fun, and even exciting!

- Jack Coxwell

Episode 15, A pickup WITHIN a pickup!

jackcoxwell — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 03:52:43 +0000

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While filming some footage for my a new project I’m working on, I got caught up within a pickup while a client and friend were in the middle of a pickup! Not to mention the entire time her boyfriend is standing right next to her, with his arms crossed looking mad. Of course I made him feel comfortable (or tried to) by including him in a lot of conversation. The footage you see here is edited simply b ecause I didn’t have the camera rolling through the entire pickup.

The best part is she was basically leading it, although I initially approached her, I told her I was in the middle of something and had to leave to film the rest of the days approaches. But instead of leaving her and her friend kinda latched onto me and began following me around! There was a period while we were in the mall and I had her, followed by her friend, followed by her boyfriend – all following me around in a line watching as I filmed my client approach girls! Hahah, i thought it was hilarious.

Online Dating Explained – Episode 04

jackcoxwell — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 00:05:05 +0000

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Like I said in the episode, I’ll get to posting more info on writing a profile in the next video. There is actually quite a bit to talk about in regards to this! I’ll do my best to keep up with posting a new video each week. Like in the last episode, please keep telling me what you would like to see in future video’s, and I’ll do my best to answer your requests!

Some quick key points to remember:

1. Make sure you don’t talk about your life, keep this a mystery

2. Make sure you display traits of a high quality male, i.e. that you are selective with your choice of women. Beware of sounding too cocky, however.

3. Make sure you only show pictures which depict you in the most flattering way possible, or the most outrageous way possible. No boring pictures.

4. Make sure to let the woman know you think online dating is a joke. This will ease her fears of assuming you are just another desperate male, she may believe you have options in the real world as well and you don’t take online dating too seriously. Because she probably doesn’t take it seriously her self, unless she is desperate.

Online Dating Explained – Episode 03

jackcoxwell — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 02:49:37 +0000

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Below is the entire conversation from the Dating Site un-edited (read from bottom to top)

From: Jack (View Profile)
Subject: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:Your Subject Line herelskjf Sent Date: 10/11/2009 10:28:51 PM

K! I just added you

From: Ashley (View Profile)
Subject: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:Your Subject Line herelskjf Sent Date: 10/11/2009 10:12:11 PM

Hahaha, i totally agree. I’ll never met a guy from a club. Infact, anytime someone tries and hits on me i say i have a girfriend. *blushes*. Works everytime though ! hahaha.
I can’t believe she did that… poor girl, she must have been super embarassed !! What do you like drinking anywayss?
if you have msn, add me.. it’s easier that way
Ashley@hotmail.com
Reply

From: Jack (View Profile)
Subject: RE:RE:RE:RE:Your Subject Line herelskjf Sent Date: 10/11/2009 10:01:31 PM

Lol! Yeah I am pretty buzzed right now, so definitely had a few drinks from seeing them. What did I do? I just sat there, and she actually broke a cup! It was hilarious, she was sitting accross from me at the dinner table, and she went to put the canberry sauce down, and she accidentally dropped it and it shattered everywhere! The glass went right into my plate too. she felt so bad for it, I couldnt’ help but burst out in laughter.

Anyway, I feel the same way about clubbing. My friens like it too, but I don’t really like it at all. I’d rather just meet someone I like randonly on a the street than at a club. Something abotu saying I met my girl at a club feels nasty and gross to me, you know?

From: Ashley (View Profile)
Subject: RE:RE:RE:Your Subject Line herelskjf Sent Date: 10/11/2009 9:50:23 PM

Hahaha, awh ! That’s so funny you said that, because anytime i have to see anyone i really don’t feel like seeing i’ll have a few drinks before.
hahah, she was checking you out? that’s sooo funny ! what did you do? lol
my weekend has been pretty fun, went to (insert city name) on friday to see my bestfriend — it was definitely an adventure to say the least. And tonight i’m going clubbing with a few girlfriends. Do you go clubbing or anything ? Meh, i don’t really like it at all.. but my friends all love it, so i go.
hahah

From: Jack (View Profile)
Subject: RE:RE:Your Subject Line herelskjf Sent Date: 10/11/2009 9:15:55 PM

Exciting? Well if seeing my relatives that I only see once a year is exciting, then that’s what I did lol. I am actually quite buzzed right now, I probably shouldn’t be. But in order to see relatives I have to be lol. I had an interesting night. I swear my cousins girlfriend of 7 years was checking me out, it was very, VERY awkward lol.

How bout you, anything exciting?

From: Ashley (View Profile)
Subject: RE:Your Subject Line herelskjf Sent Date: 10/11/2009 10:17:04 AM

Ah yeahh, i totally agree ..
I’m rarely ever upset though, I know things could be alot worse — thefore, there is no need to be upset over little things !
Sooo, how’s your long weekend going so far ? doing anything exciting ?
Reply

From: Jack (View Profile)
Subject: Your Subject Line herelskjf Sent Date: 10/11/2009 4:22:29 AM

People seem to say that often, they look on the bright side, see the cup half full not empty, etc. But man – I rarely meet people who are actually like that! When I do I have to make sure to hold onto ‘em, most people seem too down and so focused on pointing out the negatives in every thing.

Below is the entire MSN conversation, leading to the number exchange (note I am Adam in this conversation)

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Online Dating Explained – Episode 02

jackcoxwell — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 18:20:16 +0000

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Below is the rest of the conversation with said girl. You have to read it bottom to top, for some reason that’s how the site spits them out.

From: Chick
Subject: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:lmao. Sent Date: 10/1/2009 11:46:07 AM

lmao im glad you dont think im a guy! whats ur msn?
Reply

From: Jack
Subject: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:lmao. Sent Date: 10/1/2009 11:41:34 AM
Lol that’s not what I meant, but yes of course I have. Usually they will ask for obscure things though – such as to suck your, you know, for cash. What’s worse though are the guys who have pics of girls up and pretend to be a chick, then finally confess they’re actually a guy. I’m not getting that vibe from you though, thankfully lol.
From: Chick
Subject: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:lmao. Sent Date: 10/1/2009 11:29:04 AM

eww dont tell me u get msgs from guys too on here ? lol
Reply

From: Jack
Subject: RE:RE:RE:RE:lmao. Sent Date: 9/28/2009 5:45:19 PM
Hahah, yup. I guess crazy’s come in both female form and male form. Or so I’m learning . I used to think girls couldn’t be crazy like guys can. There’s a lot of weird dudes on sites like this though.

From: Chick
Subject: RE:RE:RE:lmao. Sent Date: 9/27/2009 12:53:56 AM

lmao omg thats so stupidd
Reply

From: Jack
Subject: RE:RE:lmao. Sent Date: 9/27/2009 12:48:59 AM
Hahah good! Cuz’ the girl in question was so obsessed she convinced her self that I “reminded her” of Edward.I look nothing like the dude!

From: Chick
Subject: RE:lmao. Sent Date: 9/27/2009 12:14:38 AM

well im not obbessed lol ijust like it thats all
Reply

From: Jack
Subject: lmao. Sent Date: 9/27/2009 12:10:17 AM

Oh gosh, that movie cracks me up. Last girl I dated was obsessive about it. Funniest part is the second movie’s release date is on my BIRTHDAY, lmao. Now I can’t hate on it completely.

Online Dating Explained – Episode 01

jackcoxwell — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 00:56:50 +0000

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Every Wednesday at 6 PM a new video will be released. Be sure to Stay Tuned for each new online dating explained episode every week!

If you want more info on mastering online dating RIGHT NOW, check out This program. I found this source to be top notch. It not only explains what women screen for on online dating websites, but it also explains how to go about meeting women on all sorts of social networking sites (Facebook, Myspace, etc).

Included is an e-book, a membership to their forum, and a video training course.

Episode 14, Preview of the New Concept!

jackcoxwell — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 08:50:24 +0000

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CONCLUSION

Here’s a brisk preview to get your mouths wet. My new team and I are actively working on this new concept in every ounce of free time we have, what you see here is simply a preview of our “first episode.” This new series of video’s is entirely new and has nothing to do with the concept of the old ones.

As for the details about this new series, I will not be disclosing many of them at this time. A launch date is also unknown to me at this time, since we’re still in the production process. However I can tell you that the majority of these video’s WILL BE FREE, same as the old oens. You won’t be required to pay to view the weekly episodes. I can also tell you that the concept is very unique and just as the initial concept was. This new series will take things far beyond anything attempted on this website before, that you can bet on!

On a side note, I have been actively coaching several clients, and I’ve been considering taking things a step further and launching my own boot camps. Till then, I’m still ONLY offering private one-on-one coaching if you live in Ontario, or can fly yourself down to the GTA. I pride my self in having the most reasonable rates in this industry, I don’t’ charge much more hourly than I do for my clients at the Gym for personal training, and I also offer an even better rate if you buy a days worth of training.

For more information on my one-on-one coaching, send an e-mail to jack@mypuajourney.com.

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Episode 013, “The Interview”

jackcoxwell — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 15:52:06 +0000

Part #1:

Part#2:

Part #3:

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CONCLUSION

This interview actually took place over 5 months ago! Things have changed a lot with me in that time, I’ve taken on several clients and begun to change realities. I’m very happy with my work so far, and I believe I’ve created a system (a system which uses no methods of course!) which can help anyone get past sticking points and rocket through the barrel of social arts training at record speeds!

Beyond that I know the last video was posted somewhere around 3 months ago. There’s been a bit of a falling out between my self and some friends, when you get good at this art you really do lose a lot of friends a long the way. Some get jealous, and others you decide aren’t healthy for your own development and you must bid farewell too ‘em. As soon as I acquire a new filming crew I’ll have new video’s coming out with a vengeance!

p.s. currently looking for “side kick.” If you live in the general Toronto area send me a private message. You must be alright with being filmed because we’re gonna’ have some fun! I’ll let you in on the full criteria in the e-mail!

Interactive Bootcamp, Ep. #3: “Things Begin To Click”

jackcoxwell — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 21:00:19 +0000

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CONCLUSION

In this Entry I try to get Mentalist (Zack) over his sticking point of being able to stop moving Targets. My second aim is to get him to keep a short conversation going with some strangers so he can realize they’re not all mean, and they’re not out to get him.

Out of the 5 sets he approached, all but 1 stopped for him, and all but 2 gave him their opinion (if you saw Vh1′s “The Pickup Artist,” take note that in the Second LAST episode of the season when the men were supposed to be almost “PUA’s,” they could hardly get ANY moving targets to stop).

Of course the next step after getting their opinion is KEEPING the conversation going for a longer time. Mentalist is relatively new to the game, and the steps I provided for him (and you, the viewers) are intended to be applied one at a time. This means not jumping the gun until each step has been mastered! This is the exact reason why you are to eject and not keep talking (if you’re more advanced feel free to continue the conversation, however) Following these steps strictly WILL transform you from an everyday frustrated guy, into a guy who’s able to have Option over what women he allows into his life! The steps work so wonderfully because they build a SOLID foundation of learned skills, whilst easing you into formerly awkward social situations, instead of tossing you into a pit of sharks.

The next episode will include the following: How to start building attraction with a complete stranger.

- Jack Coxwell