CONCLUSION
I know, this video isn’t what you’re used to. You’re used to 10 minute long vids and this one is only 3! Don’t worry, I’m breaking it down into parts because I want each challenge to stand alone. A new video will be posted weekly.
This challenge is SIMPLE. I want all of you watching to go out, and to approach every single person you see. I want you to open them up with “hi how are you.” That’s it! Don’t worry about going for any kind of close or any kino or any escalating at all right now. This is a pure Anxiety destroyer. If you do it correctly (which isn’t hard to do… just talk to everyone!) then I promise you’ll feel a HUGE drop in the amount of anxiety you have before the approach.
I don’t care if you’re a “pickup veteran” or a newbie. Everyone can benefit from this drill no matter what your current skill level is. Approach Anxiety is the NUMBER ONE KILLER for failure in this game. Many of us begin to read all these fabulous books on pickup, and read about other peoples success, but inside we all have too much anxiety to do anything our selves. We like to think the more knowledge we have the safer we’ll feel. Well feel this! Get out there and say hello to some strangers. I guarantee you’ll feel better at the end of it than with any pickup related book you can find!
Work towards your goal in segments. Don’t go onto the next segment till the first one is built. To become really good at picking up women you need to build a strong foundation. This is how I got good so quickly, I built a foundation. Now I’m going to teach you what worked for me, only instead of teaching you silly routines or scripted lines. I’m going to teach you how to find your own way without needing to copy.
I advise all of you to post your results of this challenge in The Forum I opened. Right now it’s absolutely empty as I just opened it up last night! So help me out and go fill it up a bit (and yeah I know, it’s a free forum so you’ll have to put up with the ads). And if any of you guys have access to a video camera, get a friend to film you doing this exercise, load it to youtube and post a link to the video in the forum. That’d be even better!
Cheers guys!
- Jack Coxwell
I took a couple of friends with me to the mall yesterday to try this exercise but it ended in complete failure for me. As I approached everyone I felt completely calm, but as I was about to say anything to them I froze up and kept walking past them…
I guess I’m going to try staring at people in other cars and talk to people in stores or something, see how that goes.
I’m not about to give up, I will record everything with my friends for documentary references.
And awesome site!!!
*UPDATE*
I went to the mall again yesterday with different friends but this time I actually hit on this girl working in Abercrombie, which was the only girl I talked to that day that wasn’t about a product. I now feel as if the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders even though I was rejected for a number close I at least have more experience and know what I did wrong. Learning from my mistakes and never giving up.
Nice job! You’re now doing what 99% of guys never do, and that is approach girls you find attractive without caring whether you get rejected or not. Major props man!
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Before I even got to this episode, I decided myself that this is where I had to start to break my fear of approaching strangers. What’s great about this technique is it allows you to feel more comfortable with yourself, because your chance of rejection is IMPOSSIBLE (you might get a weird/uncomfortable looking expression from the female). Otherwise, it’s entirely harmless and basically takes MOST of the pressure off. After deciding that this is what I had to do, I successfully accomplished this task today 2/16/2010 and I’m proud of myself! I figured that even though I was running on practically 3 hours of sleep and had an extremely busy day with class/studying/etc, I figured the least I could do is just say hi and smile to strangers, and maybe throw in a “how are you?”. Anyways 2 girls smiled and said hey, good back. Another girl, I approached her randomly in the cafeteria, and said Hey, I love your hair (she had kind of dudes hair style) and said I’m trying to grow my hair out like that. She responded by smiling/laughing and saying ohhh, and I closed by saying have a nice a day, see you around. Finally 1 girl, gave me an awkward look and didn’t really say a whole lot of anything. And right before I got to my class, I said Hey, how are you to some chick and she even took the time to ask me how I was doing back. So after day 1, this drill was a complete success. Let us see how day 2 turns out..
Thanks! Its realy cool. I think you make realy hard work.
Mentalist, way to go dude! How many times did you say “Hey how are you doing?” that day? After what number did you start feeling AA was pushed into background (I have an idea that if you have problems with this it feels like it’s in foreground, so obvious and unavoidable but once you make an effort to neglect it and do what you’re afraid of it kinda slowly moves into background so tell us)?
Eatons Center!!
“Having a nice day” sounded so funny.
Good stuff maynee.
Absolutely. Your tonality and body language matters more than what you’re saying. Your voice is VERY powerful.
Pretty inspiring video! I went out to a mall out here in Los Angeles and tried this out myself. It’s a lot harder than it looks! One thing I noticed was that many people tend to try to avoid any kind of eye contact by turning their gaze away from you at about 15 to 20 feet. Sometimes it felt as though I was barking my “Hi, how are you’s” AT them instead of TO them. Does this matter?
lamma you read the material and you learn everything piece by piece until you got a solid understanding of canned game jack would be more helpful if he showed you pieces of canned game and explain why it worked rather than shoot in the dark and record it on film
Awesome stuff Jack. I’ve always had satisfactory numbers and attributed it to my “OK” looks- leveraged with my “here and there” charm- but could never be consistent. I could only pull “mad game” when I felt “well in their [targets] league”.
You’re right, once i started reading pua books it seemed like there was so much detail you have to get down before you can go out and actually do the methods and be successful- that I ended up never attempting any of it because I didn’t have all the knowledge down.
what you’re doing is great and is helping a lot of guys. Other “methods” have daily training in their books- but how someone interprets/sees the results of that days training play out in my mind (to me) is a lot scarier/different than seeing a video of it.
Awesome Job
dude im totally doin this when i go to work… i wash windows at the mall…I have a lot of AA so this should help….btw cool site
hey what is the song in the beginning is 5 % pleaseur 100% …..
Remember the name by Fort Minor
Nice work w/ the vids so far. Theyve been very helpful so far. Ive just recently decided to go on my own pua journey and get out more into the field. So i was sitting down yesterday watchin the clip of Nitro opening w/ the “hi how are you” skit. It was entertaining to watch so i figured id get up off my ass and try it out myself! I struggled at first but i felt after about 20 approaches, my anxiety had gone away. Before i knew it i started even opening a couple sets with opinion openers. Just wanted to thank you guys for the vids and ill be staying active with the bootcamp series. Good luck to ya nitro and zach. Take it easy and have fun!
Well, if I get a chance to go out today, I will certainly do it. But considering that I am guaranteed to go out tomorrow night, since it’s my birthday, I will definitely do it then. And look for a camera in the meantime…
Nice job!
These types of challenges are great.
The main PUA community here in my country started daily challenges for people interested on dealing with AA.
It really helps a lot and is very hilarious! lol
loving the video as always, u guys rock
hey jack great way to get rid of the anxiety. personaly i’ve been a key board jock and learning how to pick up women.,, scared to even go out and talk to them. but this encouraged me to go out there and do it. now i feel great. i said hi to every one. lol but hey mail me back.
lol this is hilarious. i did the exact same thing at the eaton centre last saturday. not quite as much as he did, but still, it got rid of a lot of my AA. You truly do realize that people are much nicer than what your anxiety tells you.
Nicely done man! This is a GREAT way to diminish initial AA. I’d offer a step two to this exercise to take it to the next level (to help squish AA a little more). Talk to sales clerks in stores. Not the usual brush off of “No thanks, I’m just looking” but truly try to talk, ask them questions etc. It’s a GREAT way to practice engaging in conversations with 0 risk (it’s their job to talk to you!). It certainly won’t lead to a pick up (although it could I guess) but it takes the same principal of desensitization and just ramps it up a little more prior to working on true attraction building and comfort.
Nice little exercise. Like the format of watching other guys working on this and the step by step approach. I think it will help more guys out there. Kudos
Haha Jack, did you see yourself holding the lunch bag in the very beginning of the clip? LOL I was laughing my ass off. Good intro, awesome editing!