Online Dating is Easy – Your Profile part #2
Here is what most men do WRONG when writing an online profile.
This one mistake is so deadly it can cost them 90% of their potential success and they DON’T even realize they’re doing it!
Most men follow the guide lines, and put their entire life into the description box. This instantly destroys any intrigue or mystery they could have built up around them. Intrigue and mystery attracts women like flies to a picnic. Not only are they NOT building intrigue, but they’re coming across as incredibly boring and predictable. Two more things women find VERY unattractive.
One of the keys to writing a successful online profile is to do the OPPOSITE of what the guide lines tell you to do.
Instead of telling her your name, or your occupation, or what you like to do for “fun” you’re going to bait her into proving herself worthy of your attention.
How do we do this?
By flipping on as many attraction switches of hers that we possibly can.
The first thing we are going to do is tell her we’re not interested in dating her. Why? Because it’s counter intuitive. It’s the polar opposite of what EVERY OTHER GUY is saying. More importantly, quality successful men have PLENTY of options when it comes to dating. They would never make themselves out to be too easily available.
How do we do this correctly without appearing arrogant?
We do this by relating to her way of thinking by behaving in a similar way that she does to online dating.
To relate her to point of view, first we have to understand what her point of view is!
Women see online dating like a hiring service. They are the company, and the men are applying for a position. You can even see it written in some of their profiles, where they’ll “jokingly” state, “now taking applications.”
Women get so many messages a day that they HAVE to be disconnected like this in order to even use online dating. If they became emotionally connected to the outcome of every conversation and the persons feelings they’d be promising dates to hundreds of men a week!
If a woman sees that you too don’t take online dating incredibly seriously, and you also are “taking applications” and only respond to the best, most qualified applicants she’s going to assume you are of high value. She’ll assume that you potentially have as many options on the site as she does.
This instantly makes us look NOT desperate. The hundreds of men who message her a day with boring-all-the-same revealing profiles are the ones who appear desperate to her. You instantly separate yourself form the crowd.
What to do exactly:
First you’re going to disqualify yourself as a potential date/boyfriend. You’re going to put as the first sentence in your profile something like this:
- Friends first, always.
- Just LOOKING for friends right now
- I’m only on here when I’m bored and procrastinating from what I should be doing instead
- Now taking applications for new friendships.
- NOT looking to date. First you have to prove we can get along as friends before taking things to that level.
- If you don’t read my profile, I won’t respond. I’m only looking for friends who take the time to get to know me beyond my looks.
You get the idea.
In the next part I’m going to explain exactly what the content of your profile should say to attract the hottest women.
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- Jack Coxwell
Jack:
Does your advice apply for girls in their 40s as well? Thanks.
Lol… I love how you use fitting final fantasy pieces hahaha
hahaha I’m loving these new videos, in part due to you being funny/messing around!! I have a couple of questions for using plentyoffish, one of which can relate a little to other dating sites. #1) For POF only, does your FISH personality make any difference at all? #2) In the Interests box, should you put anything at all? Or should you be selective and only put certain HIGH interest interests that make you look “good” such as surfing, snowboarding etc etc?
Hey Jack !
I have a question, why not talk about your passion/hobby ? Isn’t it looks like you are inspired by what you do, that should show that you are not a boring guy, that you are ACTIVE. I assume that you gonna anwser that every man is talking about his hobby, but in fact I think it’s not so bad at all, you are showing that you have some INTERESTS in your life.
Norbert from Poland